DecemberJust for Today

December 8 – Calling a defect a defect

“When we see how our defects exist in our lives and accept them, we can let go of them and get on with our new life.”

Narcotics Anonymous Basic Text page 35

Sometimes our readiness to have our character defects removed depends on what we call them.  If misnaming our defects makes them seem less “defective,” we may be unable to see the damage they cause.  And if they seem to be causing no harm, why would we ever ask our Higher Power to remove them from our lives?

Take “people pleasing,” for example.  Doesn’t really sound all that bad, does it?  It just means we’re nice to people, right?  Not quite.  To put it bluntly, it means we’re dishonest and manipulative.  We lie about our feelings, our beliefs, and our needs, trying to soothe others into compliance with our wishes.

Or perhaps we think we’re “easygoing.”  But does “easygoing” mean we ignore our housework, avoid confrontations, and stay put in a comfortable rut?  Then a better name for it would be “laziness,” or “procrastination,” or “fear.”

Many of us have trouble identifying our character defects.  If this is the case for us, we can talk with our sponsor or our NA friends.  We clearly and honestly describe our behavior to them and ask for their help in identifying our defects.  As time passes, we’ll become progressively better able to identify our own character defects, calling them by their true names.

We should approach old defects with an open mind. We are aware of them and yet we still make the same mistakes and are unable to break bad habits. We look to the fellowship for the kind of life we want for ourselves. We ask our friends, Did you let go? Almost without exception the answer is, yes, to the best of my ability. When we see how our defects exist in our lives and accept them, we can let go of them and get on with our new life. We learn that we are growing when we make new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.” Narcotics Anonymous Basic Text page 34-35.

Just for today:  I will call my defects by their true names.  If I have trouble doing this, I will ask my sponsor for help.

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Paul T
Learning to live life again and recovering from addiction

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